We experience emotions every day, both conscious and unconscious. We sometimes use the word emotions and the word feelings to mean the same thing, but they are vastly different. Emotions are automatic, often involuntary, reactions to events. Feelings, however, are the attitudes or perceptions that arise out of our emotions. Moods are something else. Moods develop from our feelings as a longer lasting emotional state.
The emotions of anger, fear, or shame often create uncomfortable feelings, and build anxiety. Sometimes these uncomfortable feelings can lead to a more uncomfortable mood. We instinctively realize that if we can avoid the feelings coming from the emotions, we may avoid the mood. Too often we look for an experience or a behavior to block our uncomfortable feelings.
Why do you crave a dessert just after discovering you’ve gained weight? Why do you feel the desire to go shopping when your credit card is over the limit? Though these behaviors are the last ones you should choose, your brain is simply trying to lessen the stress you feel when you discover that something is not the way you want it.
Humans, and some animals, use behaviors to block uncomfortable feelings. You may recognize one or more of these blocking behaviors, and you may also have some of your very own:
Blocking behaviors don’t just block uncomfortable feelings, some bring you pleasure and satisfaction when your brain’s neurotransmitters release dopamine. The problem with some of these behaviors is that they can also block your joy. When you combine some of these behaviors, you create a state of overwhelm. Check a dictionary for overwhelm, and you’ll often find the antonym, the opposite of overwhelm, is joy.
Overwhelm occurs when we become overcome in feeling or in mind, and it affects most of us at some time in our lives. When we reach a state of overwhelm, our first reaction is to create rigid agendas.
An agenda is a plan or list to be acted on, something we think we want. Most of our agendas include plans to simplify, organize, eliminate, dictate, or control. We think our agendas can stop our overwhelm, but our agendas make it worse. When we put our agendas into place, we begin operating in our heads, rather than in our hearts.
Now we’re in a vicious circle. When we allow ourselves to stay in our heads, we are keeping ourselves overwhelmed to once again avoid our feelings. Some of these feelings we are avoiding could be lack of worth, sadness, loneliness, fear, or anger. We keep ourselves so unfeeling and busy that we lose our joy.
To escape overwhelm and get our joy back, we need an action plan to become aware of the effects and causes of our own agendas. When we learn how to maintain loving attitudes of mind towards others, our source, and ourselves, we can reconnect with our heart, our feelings, and our joy.
Are your agendas taking over your life? Are your friends and family feeling that you are more and more rigid and inflexible? You may be blocking your joy with overwhelm. Your choice is to come back to operating in heart, and to reconnect with your own deepest values.
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Joy & Blessings, Carole xx
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